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aLBoP Personality Tips #6-8: Extraverts


Extraverts, whether Extraverted Perceivers or Extraverted Judgers, naturally excel at the parts of the cognitive process that require them to be outside themselves and gathering information from the world around them.  Whether this is EP’s Observation of people as whole entities, understanding whether or not they can be trusted as sources, using either their intuition or senses outside themselves (Ne or Se), or EJ’s understanding of the individual Actions of others and the Consequences of their own actions based on applying either their thoughts or feelings outside themselves (Te or Fe), Extraverts are quite comfortable gathering information from people and the world outside themselves.


Because Extraverts prioritize those outside-themselves steps, they feel less confident making decisions if they haven’t gotten any feedback.  Even a self-confident Extravert will want feedback from the outside world in order to understand the full effect of their decisions, though “feedback” doesn’t have to mean positive feedback.  But Extraverts do need to beware of equating popularity of opinion with accuracy of opinion, whether for or against their own decisions.


Because Extraverts specialize at interpreting either people’s Motivations or their Actions, they are usually acutely aware of how others will react and interact with their plans and decisions.  This means that they’re more likely to be aware of people as variables, but it can also make it harder for Extraverts to make decisions that will be at odds with the people they care about.

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aLBoP Personality Tips #3-5: Introverts

 

 Introverts, whether Introverted Perceivers or Introverted Judgers, naturally excel at the parts of the cognitive process that require inside-their-heads, solitary thought.  Whether this is IP’s understanding and coming to Conclusions about Data and situational details based on either thoughts or feelings inside their heads (Ti or Fi), or IJ’s understanding of how Principles apply to the world at large based on either applying their intuition or their senses inside their heads (Ni or Si), introverts are quite comfortable working things out within their own minds.

Because Introverts prioritize those inside-their-head steps, they naturally feel confident making decisions without external input.  Even an Introvert struggling with self-confidence issues is unlikely to feel like they need others to help make their decisions.  Even when an Introvert regrets or feels inadequate in their decisions, they’ll still feel like they alone have to make the decision.

 
Because Introverts specialize at being inside their own heads, sometimes they can get a little *too* inside their own heads and fail to take outside forces, especially the actions of others, into account in their planning.  This in no way has to be a self-centered gesture and it doesn’t mean Introverts don’t consider the *effect* their plans will have on others.  IF’s especially think in terms of what effect their actions will have on others.  But a well-intentioned Introvert may fail to fully understand the ramifications of others’ actions in affecting their plans.
 
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aLBoP Personality Tip #2

 

One of the most common misconceptions I’ve come across in personality typing is the idea that Jungian/MBTI introverts and extraverts are the same thing as social introverts and extraverts.  MBTI is about the way your brain works, not about your social habits, which are likely to change throughout your life depending on a number of factors.

If you come across a personality test that bases its conclusion of you on questions like “Do you like to be at the center of a room at a party or do you prefer the sidelines?”, “Would you prefer activities like shopping and partying, or do you prefer a quiet book?”, or “Do you learn better in a group or on your own?”, chances are the test is unreliable.  Those answers would not only be affected by cultural and environmental factors, but also overlap N/S, T/F and J/P in a variety of ways.  If anything, my INFJ can study better in a crowded room than I (as an extravert) can because I feel the need to take in everything around me, and he also tends to be less nervous in a group than I am because he’s more confident making decisions without the feedback of other people.

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aLBoP Personality Tip #1

I gag a little every time I search for MBTI on Google, Pinterest or Twitter and see the “Fact” declarations about different personality types.  They’re always based on vastly oversimplified versions of each type and always end up super arrogant about the whole thing.  Arrogance is annoying, but it’s the stereotyping of each type that really gets to me.  The “Fact” statements always seem to include statements that put particular types down as overemotional little girls and say that it’s okay for the other types to be complete jerks.  As I said here, that’s not psychology or sociology; that’s just crap.  So I thought I’d take a crack at the format and see if I can bring a bit of fresh air to the topic.

Remember, in the words of the sage Levar Burton, you don’t have to take my word for it.  Go with what makes sense.  Learn these things yourself and bring your own insights to the table.  No one can say they have the last word on personality typing because you can’t patent the human brain and there is always more to discover.

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How to Make Good Decisions While Still Being You: Part 1 – Optimism, Pessimism and What We Do About It

In order to understand how people make good decisions, we need to explore *why* they make the decisions they do.  Namely, *why* do the different types have the specializations and focuses they do; how do each of us see the world and people and how do we choose to affect the world the way no one else can?

How we view the world is based on how our cognition interacts with our experiences.  Based on our cognitive patterns, two different types will interpret the same experiences quite differently.  Through those experiences, each type tends toward a different worldview.  Now I’m not talking about who you voted for or where you choose to spend your Sundays, though those choices are certainly based on your worldview and personal experiences.  No, I’m talking about optimism, pessimism and our intentions of world and self change.  I have to note that *each* of these, when healthy,  are valid and necessary ways of viewing the world so that as a society we don’t miss anything or go off wildly half-cocked.  In fact you can be sure that a broken culture is the result of one or many of the types’ unique strengths being ignored in favor of a few select types.  More on that later though.

Not just for the sake of tooting my own horn (though, as an ENTP, you know I love to 😉 ), I want to point out that you’re not going to find this information anywhere else.  I see the patterns and I share them; I don’t get them from anywhere “official” because those individual human beings who are just people too, haven’t discovered them yet.  Sometimes Tony Stark is better at inventing something in a cave than researchers in a million dollar lab with their heads up their booties could ever be.  If the “experts” want to tell the “amateurs” they’re wrong, feel free… they should just prepare to have said butts handed back to them.

Here are the graphs, because I <3 pretty graphs!

The two graphs correspond, the second being a “flipping” of the first, with each type’s place in the first graph corresponding to its place in the second. 🙂

The graph on the top is about the way each type tends to view people.

  • I’s, whose primary functions are inside their own heads, concentrate their focus on people on the whole, while E’s, whose primary functions are through taking things in from the world outside themselves, concentrate their focus on individuals.
  • F’s, who focus on the meaning of people and things, tend to be more optimistic about people.  T’s, who focus on the use of people and things, tend to be more pessimistic about people.
  • Idealistic — IF’s tend to think people on the whole are good and meaningful.  When they do feel cynical, it tends to be about individuals failing.  (“People rock!”)
  • Optimistic — EF’s tend to think individuals are good and meaningful.  When they do feel cynical, it tends to be about people on the whole failing.  (“You rock!”)
  • Pessimistic — IT’s tend to think people on the whole are bad and useless.  When they do feel optimistic, it tends to be about individuals who matter to them.  (“People suck!”)
  • Skeptical — ET’s tend to think individuals are bad and useless.  When they do feel optimistic, it tends to be about people on the whole who matter to them.  (“You suck!”)

The graph on the bottom is about what each type chooses to do about how they view people.

  • S’s, who take in the world in a linear, literal, on-the-ground way, care especially about keeping things the same and protecting what is already there, while N’s, who take in the world in a conceptual, non-linear, far-reaching way, care especially about changing things to reach their full potential.
  • J’s, who focus on the relationship between actions, consequences and principles of the way things work, specialize in the direction the world and groups are headed in.  P’s, who focus on the relationship between data, the way things are, and the motivations of individuals, specialize in exploring the world and people.
  • Game Changers — NJ’s focus on changing the world.
  • Motivators — NP’s focus on changing individuals, starting with themselves.
  • World Protectors — SJ’s focus on keeping the world the same.
  • Individualists — SP’s focus on keeping individuals the same, starting with themselves.
When we combine the two graphs, we get a unique result for each type:
  • INFJ — The Idealistic Game Changers — tend to think people on the whole are good, so they believe it’s possible to change the bad parts of the world.  (The Paladin)
  • INFP — The Idealistic Motivators — tend to think people on the whole are good, so they believe it’s possible to change the bad parts of individuals, starting with themselves.  (The Ranger)
  • ISFJ — The Idealistic World Protectors — tend to think people on the whole are good, so they desire to protect the parts of the world they love.  (The Knight)
  • ISFP — The Idealistic Individualists — tend to think people on the whole are good, so they desire to keep the parts of people they love the same.  (The Explorer)
  • ENFJ — The Optimistic Game Changers — tend to think individuals are good, so they believe it’s possible to change the bad parts of the world.  (The Veteran)
  • ENFP — The Optimistic Motivators — tend to think individuals are good, so they believe it’s possible to change the bad parts of individuals, starting with themselves.  (The Standard-Bearer)
  • ESFJ — The Optimistic World Protectors — tend to think individuals are good, so they desire to protect the parts of the world they love.  (The Cavalry)
  • ESFP — The Optimistic Individualists — tend to think individuals are good, so they desire to keep the parts of people they love the same.  (The Morale Officer)
  • INTJ — The Pessimistic Game Changers — tend to think people on the whole are bad, so they try and change the bad parts of the world.  (The Dragon)
  • INTP — The Pessimistic Motivators — tend to think people on the whole are badso they try and change the bad parts of individuals, starting with themselves.  (The Alchemist)
  • ISTJ — The Pessimistic World Protectors — tend to think people on the whole are badso they try and protect the parts of the world they love.  (The Sentinel)
  • ISTP — The Pessimistic Individualists — tend to think people on the whole are badso they try and keep the parts of people they love the same.  (The Weapons Specialist)
  • ENTJ — The Skeptical Game Changers — tend to think individuals are bad, so they try and change the bad parts of the world.  (The Crusader)
  • ENTP — The Skeptical Motivators — tend to think individuals are badso they try and change the bad parts of individuals, starting with themselves.  (The Swashbuckler)
  • ESTJ — The Skeptical World Protectors — tend to think individuals are badso they try and protect the parts of the world they love.  (The Cannon)
  • ESTP — The Skeptical Individualists — tend to think individuals are badso they try and keep the parts of people they love the same.  (The Spartan)

Each of these are healthy and necessary ways of viewing the world; it’s when a person oversimplifies people as all bad or all good on both an individual and collective level, that they start making errors in judgment.  When a person either believes that everything is fine or there is nothing worth saving, they lose perspective and become unhealthy, even if just temporarily.

As people, we do this when we are afraid that the area we specialize in and uniquely bring to the table, is in jeopardy.  Whether it’s IJ’s trying to protect what they want the world to be, EJ’s fearing their group will come to naught, IP’s feeling like the area they specialize in is meaningless or EP’s terror that who they are doesn’t matter, when we feel like everything that made our lives and the world matter to us is in danger of being lost, we hold on to extremes in positive or negative judgments to try and maintain our sanity.

As an ENTP, for example, my specialization is Individual Potential.  As I interact with the world, my cognitive functions demonstrate to me conceptually just what people can be (which suggests to me that people on the whole are good), but I also excel at character judgments, which demonstrates to me that people rarely live up to that potential (that’s where the “individuals suck” part comes in), so I figure, even though I can’t change what other people do, I can start with myself and try to be as awesome as I possibly can (try and change the bad parts of myself).

All that is good and how I’m supposed to function.  I get into trouble, however, when (usually because an individual disappoints me) I fear that everything I’ve tried to achieve of my own individual potential is all going to come to naught.  I start fearing that not only are a lot of individuals bad, but maybe there isn’t anyone in the whole world who will ever see my potential or apply what I say to themselves.  I fear I am of no use (a very T way of thinking of it) and get grumpy, mean and start making terrible decisions.

So how can we snap out of it, overcome fear and return to sanity?  How can we know what decisions to make when we’re scared?  I’ll explain in Part 2 – Playing to Your Strengths 😀

How to Make Good Decisions While Still Being You: Intro

My second semester of college, I needed a class that was a few more credit hours but nothing I looked at seemed quite right.  I was taking everything I could that semester for the major I wanted (probably the eighth major I’d settled on) and I would have been happy to just focus on classes I actually cared about, but I had a partial scholarship that required a certain number of credit hours, so I had to take something.  Rather than a fun class, I felt obligated to take something useful and my eye fell on a class called “Life Planning and Decision Making.”  I told my INFJ (who was my ex-boyfriend at the time) that I finally decided to take the class when I couldn’t decide whether or not to take the class.

While that was funny and ironic, the class was an amalgamation of bullet-point “always/never” instructions, which seemed far too over oversimplified to apply to my real life.  That, plus the depressing novel I was supposed to read for it that made me feel like life was meaningless, and the real life things I was dealing with, which the class was certainly no help with, made it so I wanted to be spending my mornings anywhere else.  I ended up having a panic attack and just stopped going to the class and flunking it because I thought if I dropped it, I’d lose my scholarship.  Say what you will about my decision not to stick with the class, but the point is, taking the class in the first place was a bad decision.
Not everyone makes decisions in the same way, nor should they.  The whole point of personality typing is realizing that we all think and process the world in different ways with different strengths.  Most “Good Decision Making” advice you can find, whether in the form of books, classes or even religions, is written from an EJ perspective.  While there is nothing wrong with EJ’s making decisions in an EJ manner, there *is* something wrong with the implication that *everyone* should make decisions their way.

Since EJ’s put action first in their cognitive process, it’s their greatest strength; understanding consequences and which action to take based on what they want the result to be.  So when EJ’s say “To be a good person, you need to take this specific action,” it often works for them because their actions are more likely to reflect their intentions.  But since the other types don’t specialize in action the same way, telling them specific action usually *doesn’t* work for them.

For IJ’s, while they’re the next best at taking action, being told what to *do* limits their ability to find nuance in the action they plan on taking, which they draw from their strength of understanding widely applicable principles.  Being told what to do specifically limits their unique ability to see the big picture and the direction actions will lead within that picture.

For P’s, their attention is supposed to be on exploring the world, rather than directing it; it’s what *makes* them Perceivers.  For IP’s, their greatest strength is understanding details and situations, drawing conclusions and knowing when they’re missing information.  That conclusion-drawing is EJ’s biggest weakness and they’re notoriously bad at knowing when they’re missing details that could potentially change their entire understanding of a situation.  An IP following strict directions of action gives up their main strength and ends up ignoring important details that only they can see.

And it’s poor little EP’s that get the biggest shaft in an EJ decision-making culture.  As understanding specific action and consequences is EP’s greatest weakness, an EP trying to follow a list of specific actions they’re supposed to take just gets confused and looks like a total idiot… as most EP’s look like these days.  One need only brave looking at YouTube comments or at the quintessential dumb teenager to see just how confused the EP’s in our culture are, because *no one* caters to their unique and non-inferior way of decision-making.

EP’s unique and foremost strength is people-exploration, meaning observing individuals as whole entities and making character judgments based on reading people’s intentions, starting with their own.  Ironically, EP’s are usually told that making character judgments is mean because often for especially TJ’s it is, because blanketing a person’s character needs to be done with extreme nuance.  But EP’s with their constant reception of information from others, *have* to determine who is a worthy source, otherwise they’ll just act more confused and stupid.  I speak from experience 😉

And in an oversimplified action-based culture, even well-intentioned EJ’s get shafted and restricted from using their own remarkable strength of knowing intrinsically which action will get them and their group where they want to be by understanding consequences; if someone has already been there and made their decisions for them, EJ’s can end up applying an action that may work in one scenario to an entirely different one where the same rules don’t apply.

So how should *you* make the best decisions for *your* unique life without neglecting *your* greatest strengths?  In a way that is entirely unique to your personality type and the way you take in and act upon the world.  I’ve broken this down into three parts, so that you can utilize all the tools you need for your own special decision-making process.  They are:

Part 2 – Playing to Your Strengths
Part 3 – How to Be Sure *You* Are Making the Right Decision

With these tools, understanding that who you are and the way you think is not only valid, but absolutely necessary and needed in the world, you can feel empowered to move the world and your own life in the direction you want.  You never have to feel trapped again.

Costuming with Personality

{Update 5-29-14:  I mentioned in the first Q&A that this post had incorrect typings that I needed to fix (though none of the ones that had been questioned thus far).  I was really rushed last Semptember to get this post out, so I messed up a handful of typings.  Mostly one-offs.  Well, I finally went through the arduous task of meticulously combing through *all* the typings in this post 😛  I’m relieved to say this post is finally up to the quality standard of the rest of the blog, and I am very proud of the results!  Enjoy and happy costuming!
<3 Calise}

It’s that time of year again; the time of year when stores put out Halloween decorations ridiculously early and you know their Christmas decorations are just around the corner.  I swear they start marketing this stuff earlier every year.  All the same, if you want an attractive and complex costume for Halloween (or wherever else you might wear a costume) you need time to prepare.  Too many Halloweens I ended up trying to pick something to wear on the 31st and was bummed out when it didn’t come out as planned or no one knew what I was.  While I think it’s worth it to go for the 1% who know what you’re dressed as, you want enough time so that *you* are happy and feel good about yourself.

In that vein, I love the idea of wearing a costume that matches your personality type or Paradoxitype!  For Dragoncon this year, I dressed up as a steampunked version of Meg from Disney’s Hercules, with my INFJ dressed as a hydraulically powered Herc.  We put the cosplays together last minute and had some armor issues.  We didn’t end up getting *any* pictures together, which really bummed me out (though a bunch of strangers have pictures of us, wherever they are 😉 ).  imho, they looked better in person, but with our little budget, they came out pretty great.  Rocket-pack Pegasus is my favorite feature, along with Herc’s working arm pumps that pushed air into tubes every time he moved without limiting his range of motion very much.  I’m also insanely proud of my guns, Pain and Panic, which started out as dollar store neon plastic and ended up with a torched steel effect.  It’s the little details that make it special, even if other people never see it.
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New Url :)

Hi everyone!  I figured now was as good a time as any to change my url from a blogspot address to

aLittleBitofPersonality.com
so I did 😉  But it meant that Blogger deleted all my comments which really sucks 😛  So if your comment got deleted, I’m really sorry and super bummed.  So please redirect your bookmarks and leave more comments! 😀  Though the old url redirects, so no big.
More content coming soon!

The Personalities of Marble Hornets

Today I have for you a typing that is particularly special to me.  Not only is Marble Hornets my very favorite webseries ever, but it is in fact one of my favorite things to watch ever.  I have to say right now, I’ve never liked horror before in my life.  Why is Marble Hornets different?  It’s all about personality.
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If you subscribe by email and got a copy of “The Personalities of Marble Hornets” in your inbox this morning, please disregard it!  I hit the publish button with its pants down by mistake and I’d really rather it not be read when it’s far from edited 🙂  If you’re interested in reading it, you should be!  It’ll be out soon and I’ve worked really hard on it so stay tuned… but don’t read the other one or >:( face at you!
Thanks, Calise

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