{Insert fanfare here!}  You asked and we’re delivering!  The new and improved, customized *just for you*, aLBoP Personalized Typing System!!!  Now *you* can get personally typed according to the typing principles found throughout A Little Bit of Personality, and get personalized advice on how to apply things like Paradoxitype, Cognition Steps, Type Specializations, and how to be a Hero in your own unique way to *you* in your own life, with your own unique talents and struggles.  Pretty cool, no?

{Update: Due to lots of wonderful demand, the aLBoP Personalized Typing system has been updated!  Find all the details here!  Now, instead of Personalized Personality PDFs, we have made the universally applicable Cognitive Orientation Guidebooks (COGs), and then if you want to chat about how your cognition applies to you personally, you can chat on the forums  So feel free to read ahead and especially to read our personalized help for Mr. Darcy, but just be aware of the new system. :)}


In addition to a personalized pdf from me and my INFJ (he’s going to be helping with emails a lot so that I don’t freak out, and so that I can keep writing posts!  Yay!!), describing how and why we typed you the way we did, tips on understanding your cognition and why being your type is so awesome, you’re also going to receive digital downloads of desktop wallpapers and an embeddable code that says proudly how you were typed by aLBoP, so you can share the coolness with your friends 😀


Here’s what you get:

–  An entirely personalized pdf typing *you!*  (Read on to see a fun example!)
—  Why I typed you the way I did, with examples from your email.
—  An in-depth look at *your* cognition process.
—  Why it’s so awesome that you’re the type you are.
—  Personalized tips on how to work with the natural strengths and weaknesses of your type and how to shine as a hero in *your* own way 😀

–  3 aLBoP Wallpapers for your desktop!
—  Your Stick Person Type Hero, from the “Type Specializations: What Makes *My* Type Special?” post
—  Your type’s Cognition Process in stick people, from “The Cognition Process in Stick Figures” post
—  Your type’s “Keep Calm and…” motto, from the “Keep Calm and Be Yourself” t-shirt series
—  All resized to 2 standard desktop sizes 🙂

–  Embeddable html badge
—  Displays your type hero proudly for anywhere you want to embed html
—  Grants three wishes* (*not a guarantee)

To get *your* very own aLBoP Personalized Personality PDF and digital goodies, you need to follow these six steps:

1. Go to the handy dandy aLBoP store and choose one of the three price points.  Why three price points?  We started out asking $5 for Personalized Typings, which really was insane for the amount of work and love we put into these 🙂  So we changed the base price to $25, but we still don’t want you to miss out if you really can’t afford that.  The $5 is the “I Can’t Afford It, But You Still Love Me Anyway” price.  It includes everything the $25 version includes and we’ll respond to orders in the order received, regardless of price.  Less of these will be released at a time, so if you buy one and don’t really need it you’ll be taking it from someone who *does* really need it, and you will immediately be hit by lightning.  Well, maybe not, but it’s not cool to do.  On top of that, it probably means you’re not a very nice person, which we’ll probably be able to tell from your email and it’s likely we’ll reject even typing you and give you a refund, which I talk about below.

But if you really do need to buy the $5 version, go for it!  It’s there for you if you need it!  <3!

The $50 is just in case somebody wants to Support aLBoP at the same time as receiving an aLBoP PPP.  In addition to what comes in a traditional Personalized Typing package, the $50 Personalized Typing package includes all the benefits that “A Downpour of Love for aLBoP” provides on our Support aLBoP page.  That includes a video of my INFJ and me doing something goofy of your choice for the whole world to see!

2. Click “Add to Cart” and go through the purchasing process. It’ll ask you to sign in to PayPal, etc. so the ordering process is entirely secure and you can use a credit card, bank account or whatever method you usually use on PayPal. You should receive a receipt from Storenvy.com assuring you that your order went through. Storenvy lets us know who has ordered and helps us keep track of which orders we haven’t fulfilled yet. We’ll be looking to match up your email (step 3.) with your payment.

*Due to the time-consuming nature of Personalized Typing, we can’t give you a refund unless you request one immediately or if we can’t fulfill your order for some reason. A ton of time and love goes into these, neither of which can really be returned. <3*

Rarely, we might decide to reject typing someone and give them a refund.  We don’t do this very often, really only for people who aren’t so nice and wouldn’t appreciate an in-depth PPP anyway, so most of you have nothing to worry about there.  See the aLBoP Personalized Typing FAQ for more info.

3. The most important step: Send me an email! Write me an email about *you*, just talk and be yourself, tell me about the way you think and what’s important to you, etc.  No need to talk about anything in particular; just be you!  Oh, and send me a picture!  I won’t share it with anyone, but we’re getting *really* good at facial typing (which we’ll unveil later this year), and there have been times when seeing a reader’s picture has helped a lot when trying to decide between two types that a person seems close on.  And a person’s facial type always makes more sense in retrospect than the type we wondered if they were in the first place!  We’ll be able to type you either way, but your picture makes it easier.

Then send it to:

aLittleBitofPersonality (at) gmail (dot) com

Or just click the Gmail button in the sidebar.  This is how I type you 🙂 It doesn’t have to be too personal, but of course it’ll remain confidential between my INFJ and me, and it can be as long or short as you want. Just remember that this is how I’ll give you personalized typing advice for your life as well, and I can only work with what you give me… although I have typed people from very short emails before 😉

4. Wait. Sorry, I know this step kinda sucks, but the whole point of the new email system is so that we can get back to everyone sooner, without lowering the quality of the Personalized Typing they receive. You can expect your aLBoP Personalized Personality PDF in 1-2 weeks, with us answering on a first-come, first-serve basis. If you haven’t received your aLBoP PPP within 30 days, we’ll refund your money and send you your typing for free. In the meantime, this is an ideal chance to get caught up on your aLBoP reading!

5. Receive personalized typing! 😀 Delivered right to your email inbox in loving, digital, incorporeal arms, you will receive your aLBoP Personalized Personality PDF, as well as your desktop backgrounds and embeddable badge, for your enjoyment and pleasure!  (Assuming your email provider isn’t a spam witch-hunter 😛 I *promise* I’ll never send you spam!! If the email gets marked as spam or accidentally deleted, I’ll be happy to resend it.)  Also, if you could send me a brief reply saying you got it, it’d be much appreciated.  I get all sweaty palmed and worried if I don’t hear that you received it 😉

6. Cheer! Be happy 😀 Now you’ve been officially typed by aLittleBitofPersonality.com and now you can go forward and shine as the hero you were always meant to be, with all these tools of personality in your pocket for your adventure! And if you think an aLBoP Personalized Personality PDF could help a friend, please send them our way!

Now, if you’ve *already* emailed me before this was post was posted, you’re not under any obligation to pay even $5.  Please accept my apologies if you’ve been waiting a long time for a response!  I know some of you emailed *months* ago and I certainly haven’t forgotten about you!  The whole point of this new system is so that I can get back to everyone in a reasonable amount of time, without sacrificing any of the attention and detail I want to pay to each of your emails.  They’ve really meant the world to me, and this blog which means so much to me, and yet which I never really expected to be more than a goofy, interesting side project and a playground for my brain, has turned into something so much bigger than me and more profound than I ever could have anticipated.  Thank you all!!!

Now, for the fun part.
I wanted to come up with an example personalized pdf as both an example of what you can expect if you request a personalized typing from aLBoP, and as a template so that when we’re responding to your emails we can have a basic outline of topics (cognition process, letter definitions, type angst, etc.) to adapt to you in your email.  I was going to make up some imaginary character, ie. Jane Doe or something, but my INFJ and I were talking about it and somehow stumbled onto the idea that an already established fictional character would be way more fun 😀  I wanted someone that most people would know (and honestly someone in public domain).
We talked about Elizabeth Bennett, but I figured she might be confusing since different retellings of the story show her as different personality types (such as Lizzie Bennett Diaries’ ENTJ version, whom I love, but is not the same personality as the novel).  Instead, we thought, who would be better than the male deuteragonist of the archetypal chick-lit novel, Mr. Darcy?


 I grew up loving BBC’s Pride and Prejudice, and Mr. Darcy especially, uber dynamic character that he is.
And not just because Colin Firth looks really good all sweaty and wet, though of course that helps 😉  But I hadn’t really delved into the novel until this week.  While reading it, I was surprised at both how accurate the miniseries is to the feeling and situations of the novel, as well as how many new-to-me and hilarious parts of the book I’d never even heard before.  I had so much fun imagining Mr. Darcy stumbling onto my blog and writing me an email to ask about his personality type (probably throwing out a few possibilities as most people do), and telling me about his life in general and the way he thinks about things.  The following email (which I would send to him in pdf form) is my “response” and all the quotes from “his email” are direct quotes from the novel.  I’m kinda shocked my own self how well it came together and how much the things Darcy says in the book apply to typing principles.  If you guys like this kind of thing, I may have to write “emails” to other characters, whether new or archaic. 😀  I swear, every time I watch Bones I have a headful to say to Dr. Temperance Brennan about how to be a healthy INTP…

Here’s the “email.” 🙂  The image version is linked down below, for Pinning, Tumbling, etc.

                                                                                                                                                        
Fitzwilliam Darcy, you are INTJ, the Dragon!
 
I could tell right away in your email that you are an IT, an Introverted Thinker, with your primary cognition based inside your own head (I) and your focus centered on the Use of people and information (T).
You prioritize looking inside yourself, aligning all the information you already have first and *then* turning and applying it to the outside world.  Your best friend (who sounds like an ENFJ), does the opposite, watching others for information and input, which he then processes inside his head.
 
Now, I’m not saying you’re an Introvert because you, as you put it, “certainly have not the talent which some people possess, of conversing easily with those I have never seen before.”  While you may feel like a social Introvert, there are plenty of psychological Extraverts who feel that same way, myself included sometimes.
 
But you added, “I cannot catch their tone of conversation, or appear interested in their concerns, as I often see done.”  From your email I can tell that that’s not because you lack social skills (you did great talking to me and we’ve never met), but because you usually couldn’t care less about what most people talk about.  You don’t see the *use* (T) of small talk, and being an IT simply magnifies that feeling for you.  Honestly, I think any healthy type will dislike small talk if its purpose is to avoid thinking about more important things.  It makes sense that you, as an IT, would be extra annoyed at small talk taking you away from the things you feel are more important, that could engage you in your mind.
 
You focus on concepts and connections in an iNtuitive way.  I want to give a specific example here of something you said that demonstrates that, but honestly, everything you say is N in a way I have an easy time identifying and a difficult time nailing down.  But in addition to the way you talk, all the actions and the reasons you gave for them speak of trying to get the most use (T) out of information by adding to and subtracting from it (N), rather than trying to utilize it and protect it as it already is (ST).
J/P was the hardest for me to tell with you.  Judging vs. Perceiving is, in my experience, one of the most crucial factors of type and yet one of the most commonly confused.  It makes such a difference because, unlike the other three letters, flipped J/P will mean a *completely* different order of cognition steps with practically opposite strengths.  At first glance, INTJ and INTP speak very similarly, but on closer inspection you focus on the Judging half of the cognition process, making decisions based on principles (IJ), rather than on the Perceiving half of the cognition process, drawing observations from specific data and details (IP).
Like when you said, “Nothing is more deceitful, than the appearance of humility.  It is often only carelessness of opinion, and sometimes an indirect boast,” or when you said, “The power of doing anything with quickness is always much prized by the possessor, and often without any attention to the imperfection of the performance.” (lol!  Love that; very insightful.)  In everything, from your idea of an accomplished woman, to how mean and dishonest girls can get when trying to attract men, you are always bringing it back to the principle and pattern behind how the world works at large, rather than the specific details of a situation as an INTP would focus on.
 
Being an INJ, your cognition process starts with compiling Conceptual Principles inside your head, finding patterns by figuring out how the information you’re currently working with connects to all the other information you have, in order to understand what *causes*the world to work the way it does.  You then apply those Principles to the world around you (E) to decide what course of Action will lead to the most Useful (T) results.  From the Consequences of yours and others’ Actions, you gather specific information and details inside your head (I) in order to make Conclusions about what’s Meaningful (F).  Then, finally, you use those Conclusions to Observe and interpret the Motivations and character of the people around you (E), finding patterns in the things you’ve observed about people through your physical experiences (S).
With character judgment being your last cognition step and as an IJ, your plans and actions are remarkably separate from your motivations.  This unfortunately leads you to being misread all the time (dang, you IJs are hard people to read!  Especially without practice), and also makes it harder for you to read other people.
You may at times be tempted to feel guilty for the fire-breathing strength of INTJ, but as you seek to be the healthiest version of yourself you will shine with all the unique power and control that INTJ has to offer.  The world needs your special insight into what the world can be and how to get it there!  Just remember to be patient with people, and use your fiery powers for good and not evil 😉  There are so many exciting examples of INTJs in both fiction and history, and you should never feel ashamed of embracing all that searing zeal!  Allow yourself a nefarious laugh >:D  When you shine as you, when you appreciate others’ unique strengths which are different from yours, and when you boldly own up to your own draconian potential, then I think everyone will be surprised at how much they all *like* what a dragon you are!
While I haven’t yet written the INTJ Type Hero post (it’s only two away so stay tuned!) you’re in good company with other INTJs, including Harry Potter’s Albus Dumbledore, Batman’s Bruce Wayne, BBC’s Sherlock (British like you! :D), Indiana Jones and My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic’s Twilight Sparkle.
Don’t be afraid to embrace your Paradoxitypeof ENFP, the Standard-Bearer; practice wearing your heart on your sleeve and don’t be afraid to try being a little more EP about being okay making mistakes and rolling with it 🙂
Remember that as an INTJ you’re likely to struggle against “Anakin Angst,” the fear that everything that goes wrong is your fault because you had the power to control it and did not.  But you can’t be responsible for other people’s choices, and in trying to keep the world between your fingers you may actually end up emulating the people you saw breaking the world in the first place.
For example, it irks you how easily persuadable your best friend is, and you fear he’s being taken advantage of by the girl he likes (the sister of the girl you like?), but remember that being an ENFJ who cares about and respects you a lot, if you stand your ground too firmly on decisions that should really be his, he’s likely to defer to *you* over his better judgment because he respects you so much.  He’s likely to go with your suggestions because he cares about you and doesn’t want to put a strain on your friendship, *not* because you’ve honestly convinced him it’s the correct course of action.  Though I know it would be out of good intentions, if you try and steer his decisions too strongly, you may end up manipulating him just as much as the people you’re trying to protect him from.
As far as your best friend’s decisions go, I know it can be hard as an IT to see and understand why someone would make decisions based so much on other people, their thoughts, desires and opinions.  Extraverts tend toward Moral Relativism—that is, basing their perceptions of truth and reality on what they gather from the actions and reactions of other people—sometimes to the point of acting flighty or unable to plant their feet.  But, meanwhile, Introverts tend toward Moral Absolutism—basing their perception of reality on what’s already inside their heads—sometimes to the point of refusing to take input or to see an alternative point of viewbecause their feet are buried in the dirt.  EF and IT tend to magnify these tendencies, as Meaning leans more toward people and Use father from them, respectively.  With character judgment being your fourth step, you may not be aware of all the motivations your friend has for liking the girl he does, let alone the girl’s motivations.
While I understand that it’s frustrating when your friend doesn’t stand his ground, remember that meaning has a use all its own.  It’s a common mentality among ITs especially, that feelings are entirely irrelevant and they don’t even consider them variables that should be taken under consideration in decision making.  But feelings have a useful purpose all their own, to give us big picture perspectiveand remind us of our end goals, that we have the tendency to lose when we’re only focused on the road to getting there.  Feelings remind us what’s important and what really matters to us; they help us understand where we should sink our thoughts and rationale.
This principle applies to your repressed feelings over the girl you mentioned with the “fine eyes,” whom you clearly like for non-superficial reasons; reasons aside from her being really pretty.  She stands out to you as caring about more important things than when the next party is going to be or how much her hat cost.  It sounds like she stands out to you even from the women in the city that you’ve met, not just the country that you find so low-brow.
You wouldn’t want to dismiss your feelings for your sister (you seem like an awesome big brother, btw!  Aww ;D), or for your best friend so easily, so why be so quick to dismiss your feelings about this girl you like?  You said, “In vain I have struggled.  It will not do.”  This may be an insanely EP thing for me to say but, why are you even struggling with this?  imho, you seem to be fighting your better judgment about this topic.  Try just being real with her.  A little emotional honesty goes a long way… especially with (as you described her) an ENTP 😉
Thank you so much for your great email, Darcy!  I hope you stick around and keep reading the blog 🙂 I have so much more I want to say about INTJ and all the types!  It’s great getting to know about you and I really am *sooo* grateful for the support 😀
Much love!

<3 Calise

                                                                                                                                                                
 


Can I just point out how much smoother the next while of Darcy’s life would have gone if he *had* emailed me and applied the things I said?  Oh well, it all turned out in the end 😀


I was wondering how to wrap this up and my INFJ said to say, “I love you!!!” in falsetto, so that’s what I’m going to do… er… except the falsetto.  (He tells me my falsetto comes naturally :P!)  But *thank you* guys!  It’s been an honor and a privilege this first (almost) year of aLBoP and I really do <3 you guys so much!  Your emails, your comments, your repins and your “Likes” have buoyed me up immeasurably.

In return, you can look forward to some (imho) awesome content this coming year!  From the next few posts being things like INTP, The Alchemist and Type Group Dynamics: The Avengers (with an *ahmazing* gif my INFJ just made and the first aLBoP video), to new long-term projects in coming months, including an entire series on *Facial Typing* 😀 this year should be a good one at aLBoP!

So get your Personalized Personality Typing, and suit up.  We’re in for a pretty big adventure.