Hey look! It’s a video in a new series, “Q&A Quickies” where we finally start answering your many many questions! 😀 Yay!!
Hey look! It’s a video in a new series, “Q&A Quickies” where we finally start answering your many many questions! 😀 Yay!!
I haven’t done a comment response post in a while. I usually just comment back to the person individually, or answer their question in a Q&A, but I when Cody asked me the following question, I started responding and this post ran away from me, in the best way ;D There is just soooo much to talk about on this subject, and what I’ve written here is just the tip of a large and beautiful iceberg.
Cody asked:
So question for you, what is the difference in your opinion, between an entp male and entp female?
Thanks Cody! This is an excellent question! And actually one that I could write posts on forever 😀 There are endless things I could say about the differences in male and female versions of *every* type! I *love* gender; it’s actually one of my favorite topics ever… which goes along perfectly with your question!
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Good morning boys and girls! {Good morning Ms. Calise} Today we have a very special lesson on the Scientific Method from our favorite guest teacher, my INFJ! Aren’t you all excited to know about how the scientific method really works in practice and how to apply it to anything in your life so that any topic can be scientific? {class cheers, roses are thrown}
But little Bobby is unimpressed. Bobby reads science magazines and writes on internet forums; he’s got this crap. He knows how to wield black holes and Occam’s Razor like a boss, so that the other kids look stupid. Yeah, that’s right!
But what Bobby doesn’t understand is, just because something sounds like “Science!” doesn’t mean it follows the scientific method. Bobby may be good at Troll Tactics that make it look like his argument holds up, but if the other kids were to follow the scientific method, they would be able to see that what Bobby calls “Facts” are really hypotheses that don’t hold up under experimentation.
Don’t be like little Bobby; understand the scientific method so that you can apply it to every area of your life, not just “sciencey” stuff! Check out the playlist of all three videos below 😀 or go here to watch them on YouTube. For Science!
So there weren’t any posts in April. Not one. Not a Type Angst or a blog update, and certainly not Type Heroes: INTP – The Alchemist, or Group Dynamics: The Avengers, which I said in the Live Q&A I wanted to post in April. Nope.
Now, until last week, the hundreds of drafts I wrote of this post in my head were all apologies. “I am sooo sorry I didn’t post the things I said I would! I am sooo sorry you had to wait! I am sooo sorry I haven’t responded to everyone!! I am sooo sorry I suck at life!!!!” All those drafts were full of excuses too. “I was organizing my house” (which I was), “I was reorganizing the blog” (which, doesn’t it look lovely?), “There were personal and family issues” (true also, and those happen), “I was having multiple nervous breakdowns” (eh, also true). But all of those were excuses; not because they weren’t valid and real claims on my time, because they were, but because all of those things were just excuses in my life for me to ignore the real reason I didn’t want to write.
And oh, how pissed I was at myself that I didn’t want to write! Here I was, at the end of March, coming down from this insane blog high; we had just finished our first Live Q&A, that was amazing! Everyone was so supportive and loving and awesome about it! We were finishing up our first wave of Personalized Typings and there were so many of you begging for us to release more (and we haven’t forgotten you! I just hope you still want them…). I was getting daily emails from amazing readers gushing about how they’d never read anything quite like aLBoP. It was humbling and often brought me… well, I was going to say to tears, but I’m more of a can’t-stop-smiling-till-my-face-hurts when I’m touched, type person. So when everything seemed to be going perfectly, just what I’d always wanted, then why couldn’t I write? Why would I seek out other activities and “responsibilities” to *avoid* writing?
I could write about all the myriad of possibilities I considered these past two months for what *could* have been the problem, but that would take a long time lol. It’s amazing how many possibilities with merit an ENTP can come up with in two months. But, while some of them were useful in their own ways, and I learned a lot about myself this past while, none of them were the root cause behind why I was dreading pulling up Blogger.
The real reason? I was sick of MBTI culture.
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Hey everyone! Just popping in to do two things. The first is to remind everyone that the first aLBoP Live Video Chat Q&A is tomorrow night!! :O And we’d love for you all to tune in and chat with us if you’re free! It’s at 8pm, EDT (GMT-4), March 29th which is tomorrow! And we’re super stoked. Remember, you can email in questions ahead of time to aLittleBitofPersonality (at) gmail (dot) com, or just chat with us right on YouTube while we’re chatting up a storm. You can ask us about anything!
Go here to watch and chat… and hopefully there won’t be any technical difficulties…
The second thing I’m here to do is to introduce a new series on the aLBoP YouTube Channel, “Tactics by Trolls,” talking about some of the most common and predictable tactics internet trolls use to make it seem like they have an argument, when really they got nothin’. Here are 5 new videos and this time they star my INFJ so you get to see him on video too! (I think he’s pretty cute, but you can’t have him ;D) It’s the internet and trolls are everywhere, but that doesn’t mean you have to feel beholden to their foundationless arguments. Watch to see how.
Here’s the A Little Bit of Personality Intro video!! (Go ahead and watch it… you know you want to!) Both for the brand new Start Page, which will help those new lost souls find their way around aLBoP, and so that, if you’re trying to introduce aLBoP to your friends, you can help them easily understand what the crap you’re talking about! 😀 *Also* it’s going to serve as an intro to the aLBoP YouTube Channel, which is going to play a big part in the content this year on aLBoP. Starting with…
Hi everyone! Blog interest, emails, etc. has *jumped* up lately, and I wanted to thank you all for coming to read these things I’ve poured so much of my love into 🙂 And thanks to everyone who has sent me emails 😀 it’s been great to hear from you!!! Apologies if I haven’t gotten back to you yet! I swear I will reply to everyone… but I’m a little backed up and I want to give everyone the attention they deserve… plus, you know, I still have a blog to write 😉 And laundry to catch up on…
But I really do enjoy hearing from you and replying to you, so don’t let any of that scare you away 🙂 Being correctly typed can make a world of difference in your life and I’d be happy to help… if you’re patient 😉
Emails have also shown me areas of information I could stand to cover better. For example, I had an awesome girl whom I typed as a Sensor ask me why I typed her that way, and how to tell the difference between Sensors and iNtuitives, especially because she didn’t feel good at the types of things Sensors are “supposed” to be good at. Here is some of my response (made generally applicable through the use of handy-dandy brackets), because I think these are common concerns. I said:
“Well, to start with, Sensors don’t have to be athletic and iNtuitives can be (though I’m not lol) and Sensors can really enjoy school and learning etc. and some iNtuitives don’t. I really believe that any type can get good at any skill, they don’t have to be limited to a certain branch of interests…
“Like I said last email, Sensors think in puzzle pieces, where everything has a spot and snaps into place. iNtuitives think more in a web or word-cloud [I meant word-net], where one thought connects to lots of others through little strands of patterns. They’re both equal, but they look different when you know what to look for. So when Sensors talk, they focus on a single puzzle piece, be it a situation or information of whatever kind, that’s whatever they’re dealing with at that moment, and figure out where that piece fits. They don’t have to look at all the pieces at once because they can look at pieces in isolation, without them being attached to all the other pieces. An S will pick up one ‘piece’ of information, and just evaluate that piece by itself to figure out where it goes. An N can’t pick up one part of their information ‘web’ without everything attached to it coming too; they have to orient all the strands at the same time because otherwise they have no reference point and their web totally falls apart.
“Was that a really weird analogy? So, when [a Sensor talks, they] hold up individual ‘puzzle pieces’ of topics or information, and discuss basically, ‘I have this piece. It has this picture and is this shape. Hmm… I think it goes here; do you agree?’ and [the Sensor puts] it in [their] mind where [they] think it fits in the puzzle 😀 Then [they] move on to the next piece. As long as a piece is working where [they] put it, and the picture looks like the puzzle box, [they] don’t have to worry about what all the other pieces are doing; [they] can take the puzzle one piece at a time. [They] can focus on the puzzle piece right in front of [them] (i.e. the piece of information or whatever [they’re] doing at the moment) and as long as that piece was put in the right place, it’ll line up with later pieces.”
I focused in this email on the Sensor side of it, because that was who I was talking to so the other side wasn’t especially relevant, but I’d like to elaborate on the iNtuitive version now. When an iNtuitive talks, they don’t stay in one place or on one thought. Everything is connected and one string leads to a million others. Now, this could easily be confused with the randomness of Perceivers, trying to explore a million different options. SPs can certainly be random. 😉 No, I’m talking about forays into the conceptual where every thought connects to every other, looking over the whole at once. iNtuitives will constantly be looking for how one thought applies to another and how everything fits into place based on how it connects to everything else.
Now, iNtuitives’ method widely gets viewed as more superior, which ends up causing arrogant iNtuitives and recursively arrogant Sensors, and makes everyone feel defensive of the way they operate. Like I just said, the two methods are equal, but different. Healthy, developed Sensors bring such meaning to looking at the puzzle-piece right in front of them, and I’m always in awe at the enlightenment that Sensors can pull from the world at their fingertips. Likewise, as iNtuitives appreciate and admire Sensors for their abilities and thought processes, they can better value their own abilities.
So when trying to type someone as N or S, or when trying to understand how an N or S thinks, remember:
Sensors will talk in ‘puzzle pieces’—one piece at a time, everything has a place where it snaps in, so there is no need to look at every piece at once. Emphasis is centered on correct placement of each piece, rather than on how it connects to other pieces.
iNtuitives will talk in ‘webs’ or ‘word-nets’—each piece of information connects to all the others and *has* to be viewed in context or things are missed.
Both are necessary and neither N nor S can afford to roll their eyes at the other, pretending that either context or in-the-moment-ness are invalid or irrelevant.
*We need both.*
This personality tip is a bit of a soapbox for me. One of the most common and damaging things I come across in personality typing, as well as just interacting with human beings on a normal basis, is people saying that who they are excuses being a jerk or hating everyone. I’m always incredulous about how many people imply that it’s okay for them to be mean, bossy, self-righteous or like their opinions, thoughts or feelings matter more than others’ just because they’re them. This problem is especially prevalent in T’s but I’ve met my fair share of F’s with superiority complexes as well.
Now, self-confidence is fine. My ultimate objective is for each person to feel happy, empowered and confident being themselves and not someone else. But there is a big difference between feeling content being yourself and implying that everyone that doesn’t think or act like you is weird, stupid or intrinsically flawed. There are some select ways that tending toward being grumpy or arbitrarily obstinate can be endearing (albeit undeveloped) attributes of a person’s character; being mean, dominating or manipulative however isn’t “just something [insert personality type here] does.” That’s a character flaw, not a personality type.
For more information on what all the letters mean, click here, and stay tuned for more aLBoP (a Little Bit of Personality) Personality Tips 😀
Extraverts, whether Extraverted Perceivers or Extraverted Judgers, naturally excel at the parts of the cognitive process that require them to be outside themselves and gathering information from the world around them. Whether this is EP’s Observation of people as whole entities, understanding whether or not they can be trusted as sources, using either their intuition or senses outside themselves (Ne or Se), or EJ’s understanding of the individual Actions of others and the Consequences of their own actions based on applying either their thoughts or feelings outside themselves (Te or Fe), Extraverts are quite comfortable gathering information from people and the world outside themselves.
Because Extraverts prioritize those outside-themselves steps, they feel less confident making decisions if they haven’t gotten any feedback. Even a self-confident Extravert will want feedback from the outside world in order to understand the full effect of their decisions, though “feedback” doesn’t have to mean positive feedback. But Extraverts do need to beware of equating popularity of opinion with accuracy of opinion, whether for or against their own decisions.
Because Extraverts specialize at interpreting either people’s Motivations or their Actions, they are usually acutely aware of how others will react and interact with their plans and decisions. This means that they’re more likely to be aware of people as variables, but it can also make it harder for Extraverts to make decisions that will be at odds with the people they care about.
For more information on what all the letters mean, click here, and stay tuned for more aLBoP (a Little Bit of Personality) Personality Tips 😀
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